Sex Drunks

Ash joins J. and Pasha to talk about quitting playing God, loosening the grip on “the right way,” and finding a more honest kind of recovery. Along the way, they unpack people-pleasing, sponsorship, character defects, and the difference between pointing to a book and pointing to God. Plus: yogurt on the microphone, merino wool obsessions, and a long-awaited disagreement that refuses to happen.

J. and Pasha wrestle with what message to carry: the book’s instructions, personal experience, or sometimes nothing at all. Along the way, a vanished beard, a possibly familiar barber, and a ten-minute limit on complaining keep things lively. It’s a candid conversation about meetings, sponsorship, humility, and helping people without trying to control them.

Matt and Carriss D join J. and Pasha to unpack betrayal, relentless snooping, reclaiming a voice, and the hard work of staying on your own side of the street. Along the way, a timeshare pitch becomes a marriage, an app tracks someone else’s sobriety, and Matt repeatedly tests the podcast’s profanity—and bathroom—limits. It’s a candid look at how two recovery programs helped them move from mutual damage toward kindness, respect, and actually liking each other again.

Laura joins Pasha and J. to wrestle with healthy meeting shares, graphic details, newcomer safety, and what real inclusion looks like for women. Along the way, they debate first steps, unpack the difference between surrendering and reliving lust, and find laughter to be a surprisingly good antidote to shame. Expect plenty of cliff-bound detours, rebellious recovery, and one increasingly urgent need for lunch.

Ethan joins J. and Pasha to talk daily sobriety renewals, romantic fantasy, and why he waited a year before dating. They get real about disclosing sex addiction on a third date, making a partner your higher power, and building a relationship on honest ground—then veer into 20-push-up delusions, tall-guy energy, and the need for a go-kart sponsor.

Susie joins J. and Pasha at the Denver convention to talk fellowship, service, and the very strange math of reclaiming a sobriety date after years of calling it something else. They get into slips, powerlessness, flirting with roller skates on, disclosure in marriage, and what it actually takes for women to feel welcome and safe in SA meetings. Plus: Vietnam listeners, Pasha as the fellowship punching bag, baby-monitor excuses, the Women’s Welcome Packet, and one surprisingly practical question about parking lots.

Ezra joins J. and Pasha after getting pulled into the podcast basically by accident, then somehow ends up telling a full recovery story from newspaper clippings and secret emails to scary basements, Israel meetings, relapse lessons, and three months sober. They get into rigid recovery vs. letting things flow, why service can work even when nobody understands why, and how shame starts losing power when you just say the thing out loud. Plus: roasting Pasha as a spiritual practice, Vietnam fame, sponsor-with-benefits confusion, memory cards, and one very serious question about whether God’s plan includes shoveling snow off a dumpster.

J. and Pasha start with a mysterious spike of Vietnam listeners and a plan for Denver convention episodes before landing in the very spiritual battlefield of car dealerships, amends, and not buying a car out of guilt. They get into why receiving an amend can feel awkward, how recovery changes conflict, and what it means to see another person as human instead of just “the guy trying to sell me stuff.” Plus: Chick-fil-A manipulation, the man in the headphones, Pasha’s gangster photo, and the strange gift of not letting your pain go to waste.

J and Pasha get patriotic before diving into progressive victory over lust, relapse shame, and whether a reset means starting over or just getting back on the path. They get into five-second fantasies, “thank you God” moments in Safeway, inconveniently helpful honesty, and why God probably isn’t going to pry lust out of your clenched little hand. Plus: I Love Lust t-shirts, half-caff scheming in rehab, video games as a portal to everything else, and Pasha's very spiritual refusal to put a poop bag on Pumba’s leash.

J and Pasha record from a not-so-private Mount Rainier lodge and somehow turn whispering, staff members, and “no sexaholics in the national park” into a conversation about weakness, ego deflation, and letting God in through brokenness. They get into The Spirituality of Imperfection, Paul’s thorn in the flesh, service work gone sideways, making amends, and why sometimes the thing we hate most is exactly where recovery starts. Plus: Pasha's sponsor is catching up on old episodes, and Pasha may or may not be hiding under a table.